The process of making love in the same old way can get boring. Admit it, and your half way there to curing the problem. Finding time, opportunity, and energy might also add to the problem. After all, who can make a grand production every time you want to jump between the sheets?
The single most important way to alleviate the problem is communication. Man or woman, sometime the people that we love don’t see the things the same way we do. If you can talk about what you want or what you’d like to try, then you can get feedback and develop a plan to make it better for both of you.
“Our sex life is boring”
“How can we change it?”
Don’t let this be the end of conversation.
Now in every article about the subject, most experts say to try different positions. Okay, it changes things up but it doesn’t necessarily add some fun, not unless you are a contortionist. Change for change sake might help a little while but it won’t increase the fun factor.
“So what will?”
“A change in attitude.”
“Oh, no, the awful statement about changing my attitude. Look, I’m tired, busy with my kids and my job. I don’t have time to play at sex. I want to get in, get out and go to sleep.”
“Fair enough, and I can relate, but I never said this would be easy. Having fun is hard work, just look at every sport out there.”
Let’s first look at a way to find ideas that will increase the fun factor.
- Read erotica – find a scene in a book that you think might be fun to try, have your lover read it. Then come up with a way to do it.
- Watch love scenes or romantic comedies, what happening in those scenes that you wish you could try. Develop it in your relationship. (A love scene in the park – try your back yard or deck.) New places can always add a thrill to the mix.
- Talk about it – the more you think or talk about sex the more you begin to see the potential of enjoying yourself.
- Be adventurous – buy sexy underwear, go commando, visit an adult toy shop, do things that open your mind to new ideas. No one says you have to try them but at least let your mind toy with the idea.
Hopefully, one of these suggestions will provide you with a way to increase the element of fun in your sex life. Then you can discover the joy of playing with your partner both in and out of bed.